Monday, September 16, 2013

Defeat the Bully! (without fighting)

What is a BULLY? 
A bully is someone who will pick on people for just about anything!  They repeatedly use physical or psychological intimidation because it makes them feel better about themselves.
Types of Bullies

  • Know-it-all Bully – Always has a better idea or better way and never gives others a chance to share their idea without putting it down.
  • Fancy bully – Makes fun of people because of how they dress or what they don't have. 
  • Strong Bully – Big and strong and uses his size to intimidate others (usually smaller kids). 
  • Trouble Bully – Breaks all the rules, always gets into trouble, seems to enjoy being in trouble. 
  • Cyber bully - Uses the internet and social media to bully and harass.

What does it mean to be bullied? 
Examples of bullying include teasing, exclusion, making threats, spreading rumors, and hitting.  
It’s not the person’s face, hair, or clothes that cause the bully to pick on someone or be mean to someone. Bullies usually target someone that they feel is weaker than them. 
What does the targeted person do that makes them seem weak?

  • Looks down 
  • Speaks softly and nervously  
  • Acts weak or insecure 
  • Does not have many friends  
  • Feels and moves awkwardly
Why do bullies bully? 
Usually bullies treat others badly because they think that it will make them feel better about themselves.  Often they are sad or upset about something in there life. 
How to avoid being the bully’s target: 
  • Make friends—Remember the golden rule. Treat others the way you would like to be treated. If you treat someone with respect, even if they are mean to you, they are more likely to be nicer.
  • Look strong:
  1. Exercise
  2. Look up - Don’t look down or at the ground
  3. Make eye contact
  4. Stand up tall
  5. Speak up
  • Ignore the bully—This means pretend that the bully is not there. That means that you don’t look at them, listen to them, or get upset about what they are saying!
  • Walk away—When using this method you must first ignore the bully, then simply walk away to a place where the bully cannot pick on you anymore.  
  • Agree with the bully— The bully usually wants you to fight back or argue back with them, but if you agree with them then there will be no reason to pick on you or fight with you. 
  • Get a BUDDY—This is one of the safest ideas if you are dealing with a bully that likes to fight. If you have a friend with you bullies will most likely stand clear of you. 
  • STAND UP FOR YOURSELF— Avoid being bullied multiple times. If you have tried the above, it is time to be stronger.  Negate the bully by telling him/her, “I understand it makes you feel cool to act like a bully, but not everybody likes what you doing or thinks bullies are cool.”  

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